Thanksgiving

     This will be the first Thanksgiving that I will not be sitting next to my grandfather during the evening Thanksgiving meal. I have been very fortunate, as have my children, to have known him. Above all things I learned from him, he exemplified honestly. For that and for him, I am forever grateful. David sings in Psalms to be grateful to God in all things. He is not asking for gratitude for tragedy or grief or injury, but to find something to be thankful for during all of life’s experiences. I am constantly uplifted working with people during their cancer diagnosis and treatment when they find certain benefits from this experience that make their lives better than before. I have commented before that the diagnosis of cancer forever changes one’s perspective on life, and for many, this is a positive change.
    The diagnosis of cancer allows one to learn to live each day to the fullest, to appreciate the simpler things, and to do things more spontaneously. The days are more valuable, and relationships can become more meaningful. Spouses, family, and friends are no longer taken for granted, and conversely, you are not taken for granted either. You take better care of yourself, eat better, quit smoking, take control of your life, and empower yourself by helping in the decision making process of treatment and gain control over your body. You find out who your real friends are, and gain some friends who are experiencing similar problems with whom you can share fears, concerns, helpful tips, and personal matters. Priorities change and time is not wasted on matters you cannot control or on negative feelings or negative people.
    Most importantly though, a positive attitude will maintain you through the ordeal. Surround yourself with positive people who support your treatment, your decisions, and your well-being. Enjoy life, enjoy family, and enjoy friends. Cancer and cancer treatment can injure and abuse you, but you can still come through it okay. No one obviously chooses to have cancer, and it is not something for which to be grateful. However, in dealing with a cancer diagnosis, you can find gratitude for your family, your inner strength, and your faith. For with gratitude comes hope, and only hope can fuel a cure.